A friend of mine is looking for a new job. I imagine all of us have friends or maybe ourselves looking for jobs. After having coffee with her, I thought about the many times I started over due to a store closing or downsizing or moving. I was reminded of my photos of windows and doors.
Windows have so many shapes and sizes and so many things on the other side. They remind me of opportunities, dreams, and stories. I can always make up stories about what I could do or what someone else has done or should do. For me windows are the possibilities.
Doors on the other hand require action. Do I want to go through that one? Am I prepared for what is on the other side? Can I walk out again? What if I pick the wrong one? What if someone closes it and won’t let me in?
Job hunting was always a little scary, unsettling, depressing, overwhelming and discouraging. It was also an exciting adventurous time. It was a time of opportunity and growing. I had to think differently. I got to look at myself and acknowledge all my skills and talents and figure out who needed me…whether they knew it or not! I also realized that I needed new skills to fit into a new market. I had to make changes and take action! I had to open a door. Sometimes one would open without a lot of effort on my part. And many times it was not that easy.
The other important thing I learned was to surround myself with friends who were positive. I could be negative without help! It was always good to hear someone say, ‘You are so good at doing …..” and knowing they cared.
I’ve learned that listening and being supportive are the some of the best ways to help my friend. It’s good for me too!